Phantasies and Alternate Dimensions (feline_phantasy) wrote,
Phantasies and Alternate Dimensions
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Digital Dualism and Virtual Worlds

Once again, I had to walk away from a potential partner. Why? He's getting back together with his ex wife IRL.

He couldn't quite understand why I refused to keep seeing him. It's the same old "digital dualism" thing, again.

I may roleplay, but it's my real heart, mind, and spirit behind the avatar. I cannot become involved with someone and NOT feel something for them. It's humanly impossible for me.

I will NOT go there with someone who is committed in meatspace. I just won't do it. Their heart, mind and spirit belong to that person in meatspace. Trying to have a relationship in virtual space is trying to have your cake and eat it too. I won't be a part of that.

I can't just "pretend" to date someone, or marry them. I just can't, and I know a lot of others who feel the same way I do. I can't, and I refuse to, separate my mind and feelings in that manner. It's not natural. It's a lie.
Tags: meatspace, romance, virtual worlds
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