He couldn't quite understand why I refused to keep seeing him. It's the same old "digital dualism" thing, again.
I may roleplay, but it's my real heart, mind, and spirit behind the avatar. I cannot become involved with someone and NOT feel something for them. It's humanly impossible for me.
I will NOT go there with someone who is committed in meatspace. I just won't do it. Their heart, mind and spirit belong to that person in meatspace. Trying to have a relationship in virtual space is trying to have your cake and eat it too. I won't be a part of that.
I can't just "pretend" to date someone, or marry them. I just can't, and I know a lot of others who feel the same way I do. I can't, and I refuse to, separate my mind and feelings in that manner. It's not natural. It's a lie.