February 16th, 2011

full moon

Dating Attitudes

I have been desperately trying to catch up, on rest, work, blogging and socializing, the past couple of days.

Now I don't think anyone can blame me (well you could, but that doesn't mean I'll listen) for devoting the majority of my time to the care and feeding of my relationship with Willy. Anyone in my shoes would do the same thing...especially if they considered every day spent with their significant other to be a miracle all by itself. We both went through a lot in December and the first part of January. Frankly, it seemed a lot longer than that...funny how time can be so relative when you're nursing a broken heart and praying for a miracle.

Well that miracle happened. Willy began talking to me again, and we went from there. Our connection is deeper and more solid than it was before.

We both found out there are a lot of really shallow, narrowminded, and self-serving people out there. One which comes to mind has what I'd term a very "backwoods attitude" when it comes to dating, and I'm betting dollars to doughnuts her attitude is the same in the concrete universe - after all, that's where our attitudes are usually formed first.

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Now, what does this have to do with virtual worlds? Well, the lovely Internet makes it possible for these selfsame gals to get into virtual worlds, complete with their attitudes.

Typical date: Clubbing/Shopping/Fucking. If they happen to land a date with someone who is a wee bit more cultured, and doesn't follow that protocol, they become confused, and begin to doubt their own sexual prowess. At the same time, they won't blame themselves, generally. They'll blame the guy for not wanting to immediately engage in sex. If the guy doesn't bother initiating another date (usually because they're looking for someone more interested in culture) many of these same gals will persecute them for it - especially if they just happen to be involved in the same community.

Total clash of what I call "low" culture and "high" culture...and the results are never pretty. You may call them shallow, but in reality, they're just following the same patterns they engage in, in the concrete universe. Just because you know how to operate a computer, and certain software, does not mean you are suddenly educated, and sophisticated.

This doesn't just happen with "backwoods" gals, either. I met a few "backwoods" guys who also don't know what to do outside of the very simple protocol I outlined above, and cannot comprehend why a certain gal won't go to bed with them nor want to see them again.

The only fault I can honestly say I have is when a person like this tries to defame, disturb, harass, or otherwise make miserable the more cultured person for deciding to move on. Listen you guys - it's not a reflection on your sexual prowess, it's culture clash, pure and simple. Now show us that you're over 18 and learn to move on. There's someone for everyone in virtual worlds, just like the concrete universe.