March 18th, 2014

another world


I've come to the unfortunate conclusion that a lot of people don't view me as a leader. I am not the one they think of when they want to leave a bad clan for a better one. I'm not the one they look to when they need someone to stand up for them.

I have concluded this based on several possible reasons.

In the USA, leaders are most often characterized as someone to be feared, someone who lacks empathy and is the best "seller" of whatever it takes to be a leader. How many leaders in this country - whether they lead by income or other means - are truly regarded as someone to be loved and adored? Fear most frequently drives people to pick leaders who they think will put forth their own personal agenda. Such leaders toss the word "ethical" around, even as they openly defy its meaning. At the end of the day, such leaders put their OWN agenda forward, and to hell with yours. All you can hope for is that at least some of their agenda matches your own.

I am the type who is nice until someone gives me a reason not to be nice. I am honest and transparent - two things that have the effect of scaring a lot of people, simply because they don't have the confidence to be honest and transparent themselves.

I'm the girl who sold toothbrushes door-to-door in middle school and managed to win an award for it. Now, just who would buy TOOTHBRUSHES from some little girl selling them at your door? I made them very appealing, but I did not use subterfuge or lies to do it.

I think it's time that people realize that true leaders don't need to have money and don't need to twist facts around to make themselves look appealing. They can be like me - truthfully ethical and empathic. Everyone's voice deserves to be heard, even if what they have to say doesn't benefit the group as a whole. They still have the right to say it, though it may not be adopted as policy if it fails to benefit the majority.

I recognize people as distinct individuals who have something to contribute, even if the only thing they have to offer is their own presence. I recognize that all deserve to have a voice. They deserve purpose, recognition, and appreciation.

Those are things many have not been conditioned to associate with a leader. I think that's sad, and if my presence does anything, I hope it serves to prove that you don't have to be a cold-hearted bastard to be an effective leader.