May 10th, 2014

Everybody wants their 15 minutes of fame.

I am writing this to someone who will probably never read it; be that as it may, I needed to get it off my chest.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: Soul numbers alone are not what makes a good Bloodlines player. Knowledge and attitude are what make a Bloodlines player.

For instance. I know of a young lady who has 20,000 personal souls. She has a very rich friend who gave her the money to purchase every single one of them. She plays a toddler. She knows next to nothing about the game in general and her attitude is such that very few people can stand her. She thinks it's a great achievement to be 1st generation but that's only because of numbers. She shows no other redeeming qualities, and how do I know? She once played my daughter.

I know of another woman who has 1,911 souls and makes a point of looking down on anyone with anything less. Because of her and her SL sister's attitude, she as kicked out of the family I'm in, now. Hell - she hardly even talks to anyone who has less souls than she does. No idea if she has knowledge of the game, because she thinks she's so much better than everyone else.

There is someone in my family who has 407 personal souls, and has shown an attitude virtually from the start. She looks down on anyone with less than her. She constantly questions the way the family is run. She is rude to fellow members of the family; in most cases, she doesn't speak to anyone at all unless they're in her own line. She has been a thorn in our Queen's side virtually every single day.

Listen, lady. You're no better than the people I cited before I got to you. Your numbers don't make you better than anyone else, because, at the end of the day, we're all just human beings behind the keyboards.

While knowledge certainly goes a long way to fostering a good reputation, how you treat others is, in the end, what makes you either well-loved or well-despised. Bloodlines offers a structure, but it's the families that truly make the game. Are you going to be someone who accrues a bunch of souls and lords over others with less - or are you going to be the type of person who is friendly, forgiving, and helpful?

First of all, the world does not revolve around you. It isn't always about you. Most of the time, it's about the family, not any one member. So let me tell you this - if you think you're all that with high soul numbers, and that you can run a clan better, and that nobody else is worth talking to if they're not in your own line, why don't you go make your own clan? What's that I hear? You have to get land, and it costs money. That's right. Not only that, but then YOU get to sit on the top and deal with every single little thing that happens below you. YOU get to deal with people with YOUR attitude who barge in and think they can run things better. YOU get to meet the needs of your minions, and their minions, and YOU have to set aside YOUR attitude to make other people happy.

Gee, isn't that easy, is it?

Better yet, why don't you set your ego aside and realize that being in Bloodlines really isn't that different than anything else in life - there's always something to learn, and sometimes that knowledge comes from the least amongst us. Realize that your apparent status does not make you some sort of super-being that deserves respect that isn't earned. Realize that every family has rules and ways of doing things, and you either accept them, or you go elsewhere. Realize that at the end of the day, you too are just a human being, doing whatever it is you have to do to live - no different than anyone else.

If you want respect, adapt an attitude that earns it. Want people to look up to you? Be willing to set your ego aside and help them, and listen to them. Don't treat others like they don't matter just because they don't possess 400+ souls. Some have the funds to buy souls and others don't. Money can buy you apparent status, but it cannot buy you the devotion and love of other people.

Only your own attitude can do that.

Rez Day

In roughly 15 minutes, I will have spent 6 years in Second Life.

I've had a lot of good times, and a few bad. I've met some incredible people, and for that I am thankful. Some are out of SL entirely, and yet others have gone on to do other things.

No matter what we shared, I am grateful to each and every one of you. You've helped me grow, to learn what I want to be, and to learn what I don't wish to be. I am especially grateful for my close friends and family who are still around me, now. The love and closeness we share is like nothing else I've known.

Thank you all, and may your journeys be as adventurous as mine have been.