It still takes time to get to know someone before you can reasonably advance a relationship. If there are problems right in the beginning, that is usually enough to tell me that it's not going to work for me.
I have told many people many times that I work to minimize my stress when in virtual reality because of healt concerns. Even if I were completely healthy, VR is supposed to be a place where we can have fun and be something we couldn't be in the concrete universe, what most of us refer to as Real Life, or RL. If you get into a situation that feels stressful and doesn't bring you happiness, it's the smart thing to get out of it. There is no reason why you have to stay in a situation that you don't want. It's really no different than RL in that regard. If the person takes and takes and uses you and takes, without adding any enrichment to your life, they are toxic to you and you are better off getting away from them.
I pay attention to what a person says when they say they're attracted to me. Is it speech that's full of "I" and "me" or is it speech that includes a few "you" and "we"? If it's more of the former, then chances are good you have a user on your hands and you're better off without them.
If they lie or fabricate stories right off the bat and endanger your trust in them, that's an even bigger red flag that you need to get away from them.
If they don't take the time to get to know you, to find out what makes you happy, what "makes you tick", what turns you on and brings joy to you, then they aren't interested in "you" at all. They're more than likely interested in getting into your pants or getting a free home or cajoling you into paying for things for them. That might sound harsh, but I've encountered all of that in my little over 6 years in VR. I own a sim and give the apparent impression of being well-off, which is hilarious, all things considered. I'm not well-off. I am lucky to have what I have and I could lose it at any time.
Yes, I have beautiful avatars, and they're beautiful because they make me happy. Yes, that tends to attract all sorts. I've gotten very good at separating the wheat from the chaff in a relatively short time.
The bottom line is this: I can tell from your words and actions if you are authentically interested in me as a person. Those who act like chameleons, adapting words and actions meant to gain my attention, do not get far. They smell as fake as a three-dollar bill. The energies I feel from them are detrimental rather than beneficial. Never EVER attempt to fool an Empath. They will figure you out in record time.
I am an Empath and I will no longer tolerate fakes trying to get "with" me.